I receive many messages from people wishing to help others in some way which of course is very noble, especially considering one of the fundamental Principles of progress - "Service to Others before Service to Self".
Very often for example a family member is in financial difficulties, or has health issues or relationship issues, and another family member wishes to help them out.
The first consideration is whether the person in need of help actually desires to be helped. Sometimes for example what might appear as difficulties for one person, might seem normal to the person actually experiencing the perceived difficulties.
Other times, as is often the case, a person might be experiencing some form of difficulty which they need to overcome as part of the experience they are here to gain during this incarnation on Earth.
So before helping others it is absolutely crucial that the person who appears to be in need of help is actually need and wishes for such help.
An example of this are the messages I often receive requesting help for a situation of some sort. Because the person has pro-actively sent me a message asking for help I know that I can justifiably extend that help without infringing the freewill of that person or breaking any karmic principles. And of course I always do.
The only exceptions are when for example a person has stated that they intend to commit suicide soon, and clearly mean it. In these cases I engage the person in an exchange of messages that leads them to stating why they wish to end their life, and what help or advice they need in order to change their Mind. In this case although it would have been wrong to intervene directly to pursuade them against their intended course of action, they finally asked for such help.
If on the other hand a person wrote to me about something else, but happened to mention some difficulty they were experiencing, and I took it upon myself to help that person, then I would be compromising their freewill and learning experience, quite likely resulting in karmic consequences for myself.
That said, of course motive is taken into account as well. If we were to help someone out of compassion because they appeared to be suffering greatly and in need of help, the consequences would not anywhere near as great as judging a person to be in need of help without knowing the facts, and then forcing that help upon that person.
Again,in all of these situations we must always keep in Mind at all times that we are here on Earth for the most part to learn and evolve through experience, and very often those experiences are very hard indeed, but ones that must be overcome to progress both in life, and for the Higher Self to assimilate as part of the whole experience needed before Higher Self can move on to greater things.
So how then do we determine whether a person would welcome help?
There are two main considerations here:
1. When the person physically approaches us and requests help.
2. If we approach a person who appears to be in need of help, we ask them if we can help, and they say that they do need help.
In both cases the person has agreed to be helped and we can safely extend that help without the risk of karmic or any other consequences.
Condition 1. above is straightforward - someone approaches us for help and we freely extend that help.
Condition 2. above is not quite as straightforward. We must not place ourselves in a position where we believe the person needs help but might not be seeking help, but then the person decides that because the offer of help is being extended, they will accept it anyway.In this case the freewill of the person will have been compromised.
So in these circumstances we must use absolute certain that the person is genuinely in need of help, and to then approach them in such a way as to extend an offer of help without actually forcing our will upon them.
In this case there are no hard and fast rules as to how to go about this because clearly every situation will be very different.
Typically however a useful approach would be to sit down and chat with the person in general terms, thereby determining how serious there situation appears to be, and then to ask them what they believe they would do to resolve it under ideal circumstances. If and when they offer a particular solution we can then offer to help in facilitating that solution. Their freewill will not have been compromised due to the fact they have decided on a course of action of their own freewill that includes the person offering help, and that help is then extended to help in facilitating a resolution to the situation. If and only if they agree, then the necessary actions can be taken.
Again though this is only a general outline. Each situation will be different and will need to be approached as such, keeping in Mind the guidelines I have provided in order to prevent your help rebounding upon yourself, however well-meaning it might have been.
There is a final situation which is certainly the most difficult of all when it comes to helping others, and that is when the person apparently in need of help is too ill to indicate they need or would welcome such help, for example if they are too ill or even in a coma or perhaps if they are a very young child not old enough to make that level of decision.
In cases such as these there are two choices:
1. Let the situation take its natural course.
2. Seek inner guidance as to whether to help or otherwise.
Option 1 is clearly hard - no one likes to see another human being in distress or even dyeing. However, we must keep in Mind that the person may well still be experiencing something forming an integral part of their learning process in this incarnation which involves experiencing suffering perhaps even followed by "death".
We should also remind ourselves of the truth that there is no such condition as "death", but only a change from a physical to a non-physical state of Being, and that where the person is going their will be only peace and harmony and no suffering, and from these perspectives are going to a "better place".
In our human form most people only see situations from a temporal perspective without the benefit of seeing the infinite chain of causes and effects behind each situation, however dire it might seem, and without knowing what experiences the Higher Self of that person is seeking in this incarnation.
So in difficult cases such as these each person must make a decision, in full knowledge of the implications of that decision.
How may we best accomplish that?
There is only one way to make such a decision and that is to focus within. Our Higher Self and Source know the true reality of the situation being faced.
This can be done through meditation by entering into an altered, expanded state of consciousness, and focusing on the question as to whether it is appropriate to help or not to become involved, and expecting through intuition to receive the answer. This might require several meditation sessions.
Another way is to turn the issue over to the Subconscious Mind, which, being intimately connected with Universal Mind, will certainly know the answer to this and indeed any other question.
The best time to approach this is at night, in bed, just before sleep. At this time keep thinking about the person you wish to help, imagining and visualising them as clearly as possible, and ask the question, in your Mind "should I help this person", using their actual name. When you do imagine and visialise the person, only do so as if they are in perfect health, never suffering.
The answer will come to you often the moment you awake. It is an excellent idea, as it is generally, to keep a small notebook by your bed and write down absolutely everything you can remember without delay. This should not be left until later due to the fact that recollection of dreams and messages received can quickly fade - rather write everything down the instant you awaken as your very first action of the morning. This process alone will ensure that your Subconscious Mind will communicate increasingly more through this method, and with results that can be profoundly valuable.
So this these then are the main considerations before helping anyone specifically.
Service to others before Service to Self is an absolutely fundamental and crucial aspect of evolution, but at the same time it is equally fundamental and crucial to ensure that it is appropriate to extend such service and help in any specific set of circumstances before actually doing so.
Source
No comments:
Post a Comment